Tips Divorced Fathers Network Members Brainstorm!

• Don't isolate yourself
• Join a DFN group
• Keeping a journal keeps the facts straight forever
• Set and clarify your goals
• Use humor whenever possible
• Get the finances in order
• Take care of yourself, exercise, rest, vacation
• Limit risks and watch out for setups
• Get involved in your children's after school activities
• Find a mentor--learn from someone who lives the solution
• Watch out for the ex-partner’s buttons and triggers
• Be patient, things will change
• Resentment/Rage, Acceptance, Hope/Healing

• Get acquainted with the children's teachers, doctors, friends, and friends parents
• Be proactive--begin with the end in mind, put most important things first, think and act win/win, seek first to understand--then be understood.
• Pick your fights carefully and don't sweat the small stuff
• Stay out of the adversarial family law court system
• Use mediators, collaborative attorneys, or conflict resolution centers
• Detach from your former partner--don't expect her to be a resource
• Watch out for depression, suicidal thoughts, excessive anger, and resentment
• Understand SARAH, coping with loss - Shock/Denial, Anger
• When communication is rough, keep it brief. Discuss only the important stuff
  
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