Tips Divorced Fathers Network Members Brainstorm!

• Don't isolate.
• Join a DFN group.
• Keeping a journal keeps the facts straight forever.
• Set and clarify your goals.
• Use humor whenever possible.
• Get the finances in order.
• Take care of yourself, exercise, rest, vacation.
• Limit risks and watch out for setups.
• Get involved in your children's after school activities.
• Find a mentor -- learn from someone who lives the solution.
• Watch out for the ex-partner’s buttons and triggers.
• Be patient, things will change.
• Resentment/Rage, Acceptance, Hope/Healing

• Get acquainted with the children's teachers, doctors, friends, and friends parents.
• Be proactive; begin with the end in mind; put most important things first; think and act win/win, seek first  to understand, then be understood.
• Pick your fights carefully and don't sweat the small stuff.
• Stay out of the adversarial family law court system.
• Use mediators, collaborative attorneys, or Conflict Resolution Centers.
• Detach from your former partner, don't expect her to be a resource.
• Watch out for depression, suicidal thoughts, excessive anger and resentment.
• Understand SARAH, coping with loss - Shock/Denial, Anger.
• When communication is rough keep it brief, discuss only the important stuff.
  
  Suggestions from fathers to fathers.
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