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Avoid in-person contact.
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Make your communications formal and direct (faxes, voice messages, memos, letters).
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Always demonstrate that you clearly understand what the other person is
saying.
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Keep the agenda on the principle of doing what is best for the children.
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You know what triggers conflict with the other parent. Try not to push those buttons.
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Look for ways to acknowledge his or her loyalty, contribution and dedication to the children.
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Do your job as a parent, and let the other parent to his or hers.
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Confront only with great care. Choose your battles carefully.
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Try to be flexible. Volunteer something the other parent would like to have.
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Do some self-assessment.
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Keep the parent a person in your mind. Don't make him or her into a monster or a "thing."
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Do what you say you are going to do. Be reliable and dependable.
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Know your rights.
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Keep a detailed record or log.
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Use a mediator. Bring your memos, notes and documentation.
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If mediation doesn't help, see a lawyer or go to court yourself.
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If you can't change the situation, be sure your attitude works for you, not against you.
